Let’s cut to the chase: neurodivergence in schools is complicated. From ADHD to autism, teachers are doing their best to support a wide range of learning styles and behaviors—while juggling 25 other kids, a mountain of lesson plans, and probably a coffee addiction.
But here’s the thing: teachers have a front-row seat to your child’s struggles, triumphs, and everything in between. And they have some things they really wish parents knew. Let’s break it down, with a healthy mix of sass, truth, and practical advice.
1. We’re Not Diagnosing Your Child—Promise
When we suggest your child might need extra support, it’s not because we’re playing amateur psychologist. It’s because we see patterns. If we mention things like “inattention” or “sensory sensitivities,” it’s because we’ve observed behaviors that may impact learning—not because we’re trying to slap a label on your kid.
What to Do:
Listen with an open mind.
Ask for specific examples of what we’re seeing.
Remember: early intervention is key!
2. Accommodations Are for Everyone’s Benefit
Accommodations aren’t “special treatment”—they’re tools to help your child (and the rest of the class) succeed. Allowing sensory breaks, offering extra time on tests, or using a fidget tool helps your child regulate so they can focus, learn, and thrive.
What We Wish You’d Know:
Yes, accommodations might make your child “different.” That’s not a bad thing.
Your advocacy for these supports helps us implement them more effectively.
It’s okay to ask us how things are going—we want to work together!
3. We Can’t Do This Alone
Supporting neurodivergent kids isn’t a one-teacher show. It’s a team effort involving parents, specialists, and sometimes a small army of coffee-fueled professionals. If we suggest an IEP or 504 Plan, it’s not because we want more paperwork (trust me, we don’t). It’s because your child deserves the resources to succeed.
What You Can Do:
Be an active participant in meetings and discussions.
Share what’s working (or not) at home—we need that intel!
Check your email! Seriously, we need you to respond.
4. Behavior Isn’t Just “Bad Attitude”
If your child melts down, shuts down, or acts out, it’s not because they’re trying to make our lives miserable (even if it feels that way at 3 PM on a Friday). Neurodivergent kids often struggle with emotional regulation, sensory overload, or unmet needs, and behaviors are their way of communicating.
Translation:
That “tantrum” might be anxiety or frustration.
The “defiance” could be sensory overwhelm.
The “daydreaming” could be a coping mechanism for ADHD.
How to Help:
Work with us to identify triggers and solutions.
Reinforce self-regulation strategies at home.
Avoid punishment for behaviors your child can’t control.
5. Your Kid Is Amazing—Let’s Celebrate That!
Neurodivergence isn’t just about challenges; it’s also about strengths. Maybe your child has incredible problem-solving skills, a vivid imagination, or a knack for building Legos that belong in the Smithsonian. We see these strengths every day, and we want to build on them.
What This Means:
We love hearing about your child’s interests—it helps us connect with them.
Focusing on strengths boosts confidence and engagement.
Neurodivergence is an asset, not just a label.
6. Consistency Is the Secret Sauce
Kids thrive on routine, especially neurodivergent ones. If your child knows what to expect at home and school, they’ll feel more secure and focused.
What We’re Hoping For:
Reinforce classroom routines at home (e.g., a consistent bedtime or homework schedule).
Use similar language when addressing behaviors.
Collaborate with us to create a unified approach.
7. We See You Advocating—And We’re Grateful
We know being the parent of a neurodivergent child can feel like a full-time job. Between evaluations, therapy appointments, and endless forms, you’re probably exhausted. But your advocacy makes all the difference. When you fight for your child’s needs, it empowers us to support them better.
What’s the Big Takeaway?
Teachers and parents are on the same team, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. We both want your neurodivergent child to succeed, grow, and feel supported. By working together, we can create an environment where your child thrives—quirks, strengths, and all.
Want more tips on supporting neurodivergent kids in school? Call or text 614-470-4466, email admin@achievepsychology.org, or visit www.achievepsychology.org to connect with experts who can help your family and your child’s teachers work together seamlessly.
